My Approach is based on understanding not psychology
My approach is known as ‘systemic’. This means that I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I do not have a medical background and so I will not be offering anything similar to CBT or analysis. Rather I will be offering you understanding and support based upon how you are engaging with those around you. How you are understanding your relationships and communication with others.
Although my initial training was systemic family therapy I have also trained in various other connected approaches. Like most counsellors I have continued to develop my practice and understanding. NLP (Neuro-Linguistic programming) was one of the first forays into other approaches. This was because I became fascinated with ‘states’ and the way the brain and the mind relate to one another. I then studied Imago Couples Counselling along with my wife Alesia (pictured with me opposite). We wanted to adopt a particular approach to helping couples and this one connected with my approach perfectly. Finally I have studied IFS (Internal Family Systems) which, as it is systemic in it’s origins fitted perfectly with my background but also added so much to my practice.
I hope to continue to grow and learn from these approaches and maybe others in the future. But I also learn from my clients and the uniqueness that everyone brings to the counselling room.
I recently became a Grandad and now have two amazing granddaughters. Watching these two grow and come through various developmental stages has helped me as a therapist. But I have also grown and developed as I have transitioned into a different season in my life. There is no doubt in my mind that I am a more rounded and balanced individual because of them.
Whatever your stage of life and whatever issues you bring to the counselling room, I want you to know that I will bring all of my experience to bear when working with you on your issues and difficulties. Helping you to use your challenges as the means of growing and developing your self.
Your counselling may be short or long term, depending on the issues involved. Each of your sessions will be purposeful and meaningful. Good counselling involves listening, so I will not be offering quick fix answers but will first take time to really hear what you are saying. I ask questions that help you to explore your experience in a new way. I support you in learning more about yourself.