All marriages face difficulties! When I first began couples counselling training there were two assumptions that seemed to be included, firstly that the good marriages went without problems and secondly that when things went wrong, a counsellor could sort it out!
I remember the early days of my training when faced with a couple who were looking at me! Like most counsellors in those days I found this to be the most stressful form of counselling.
Well, these days it’s different! We understand that the issues faced in any marriage are part of the marriage and something everyone goes through. Secondly, we have trained in a form of counselling that supports the couple in communication that helps, rather than continue with the old fashioned idea that we can sort you out with our expertise! The main difference these days is that we understand that what is needed is a re-connection between the couple. There is a fracture in the relationship that needs healing.
When we start this counselling we ask the couple to commit to a weekly session of one hour and a half at our counselling rooms as well as ‘homework’ for a six week period.